11 May 2023
How come 3w2s succeed so much and so easily? Is there some magic involved, or are they simply so gifted? Or maybe they are just charming manipulators! One thing is sure—the 3w2 Enneagram type makes everything seem like a walk in the park.
This combination is a great example of what a wonderful personality can result from the mix of male and female principles. If you are curious to know more about what makes this type unique, stay tuned.
In this guide, you will learn what fuels 3w2s’ big dreams, what they are afraid of the most, what they desire, and much more!
The biggest lesson a typical Three learned in their childhood is that you must appear strong and successful to be loved.They were often encouraged to take action and ignore their feelings while praised only when they achieved something relevant. Therefore, Threes believe that achievement and success are prerogatives for any kind of happiness.
On the other hand, Twos had to learn to read others and please them if they wanted to have their needs met and achieve happiness. When you add this to the Three’s personality traits, you get a person who still prioritizes success but leaves more room in their lives for empathy and intimate relationships.
In this combination, Threes struggle less to stay in contact with their true self and often have the ability to read others and adapt quickly. The bottom line is that the charisma of Type Three and the warmth of Type Two create a truly delightful personality.
A wing in 3w2 means that this personality type belongs to Type Three but also has many traits of Type Two.
The Two wing adds more subtlety to the brisk Threes. Thanks to it, 2w3s want to succeed but will stop to help others succeed, too. Also, since Threes tend to fake some traits just to get other people to like them, they become more honest with a Two wing. Its influence targets exactly what Threes struggles with the most—staying connected to their soft side.
Twos are considered one of the more sensitive Enneagram types, and it is exactly this sensitivity to which this type owes many of their greatest strengths. On the other hand, this same trait also makes them vulnerable in some other areas.
The Two wing adds some emotional stability to Threes, making it much easier for this type to develop their unique strengths.
The most distinct virtues of the 3w2 personality type would be:
The empathy and emotional awareness that come with the Two wing may make the Three hypersensitive in some areas. A typical 3w2 has all the weaknesses of Type Three, but the Two wing makes it even more aware of them.
So, the most vulnerable spots of this Enneagram type include:
The unconscious fantasy of the 3w2 type is that once they achieve the recognition and success they crave, they will finally get the respect and love they deserve. Naturally, all their most profound fears and desires revolve around being a failure and not getting the love and acceptance they need.
If we had to sum up the core belief behind all the fears 3w2 suffers from, it would sound something like this: “If I fail to achieve the extraordinary success I feel I am destined to, everyone will see what a fraud I am, and I will never earn their love and respect again.”
Here’s what this type is the most afraid of:
“I want to be loved and admired for everything that I am, so I have to make such a huge success that everyone will just have to love me” is the main mantra of 3w2s that subconsciously directs all their moves. They just want to be loved and accepted and feel like there is no other way to get there but to be widely successful and accomplished.
Speaking of that, their deepest wishes usually include:
In the comparison between 3w2s and 3w4s, the former will be the more extroverted version of the Three. Both types strive to succeed and are goal-oriented, but 3w4s will not be as eager to socialize after a hard work day as 3w2 would.
Moreover, 3w2s are more polished and want to be a part of the community or belong somewhere. They care if people like them or not, unlike 3w4s, who want to be admired from afar. These people also base their identity on their craft, while 3w2s’ identity revolves around fitting into their culture’s ideal.
Finally, the self-worth of 3w2s depends on their desirability, while the 3w4 personality type bases their self-worth on their success. For 3w2s, however, success is just a means to their ultimate goal: to be loved and accepted.
As we mentioned previously, the deepest motivation of 3w2 is to be cherished and accepted. Since they believe they must earn the right to have their needs answered, they put huge pressure to measure up.
In fact, life is a bit like a football match for this type—you have to have your eyes on the ball, or else you may lose it. Therefore, competitions excite 3w2, as each of them is another chance for them to prove their value. When the everyday reality does not offer any chance for them to compete and win, they will compete with their friends, coworkers, or family—just for fun.
And when it comes to fun, that’s another great resource of motivation for this charming type. They love socializing, going out, and spending time with their friends. They are often the life of the party and enjoy being in the spotlight. Thanks to the Two Wing, they love making people happy, which, in the case of the 3w2 type, gets transformed into entertaining others.
Finally, it is important to understand that success is still the most important thing for this type, so the more successful they get, the more motivated they are.
Type Three is particularly prone to burnout syndrome, as they are naturally workaholics. Because of this, 3w2s may feel like they are only loved for doing things for people when exhaustion knocks on their door.
Additionally, they may become moody and secretly resentful. Blaming others for their mistakes is one way they deal with exhaustion, as well as becoming conceited and vain. Their coworkers are usually startled by this shift in their behavior, watching them spiral into self-doubt.
When the fear of failure kicks in, 3w2s may retreat and resort to their intimate relationships by becoming needy. All kinds of depressive moods may surface, and that’s when it becomes clear to those around them that 3w2s’ incredible drive was compensation for their deep feeling of inadequacy.
The Enneagram 3w2 type easily makes connections at work. This type is a true go-getter— resourceful, capable, and always willing to walk the extra mile.
They will never waste time at work and will always be the ones who always find something to do to get closer to their goal. Thanks to the Two wings, they can even sense who they should make friends with to enhance their career advancement.
Besides that, this type is an excellent manager, though they can be too demanding at times, as they may expect the same dedication and drive from their subordinates. Getting what they need from others comes almost naturally to them since they are skilled communicators who instinctively know how to motivate others.
As team players, they will be very competitive. They will never be satisfied in a subordinate position and will always be the ones who get promoted to managerial functions the fastest. Still, their coworkers usually love them, as they are very charismatic and energetic.
In the end, 3w2s are people persons and are not interested in working independently. They actually like structure and clear hierarchy and enjoy climbing the corporate ladder. Still, this type has many entrepreneurial skills, so they may decide to build their own business at some point in life.
Based on what we have learned about 3w2s so far, we can conclude that they are dynamic people who enjoy being in the spotlight. And, since they love entertaining others, they often choose the careers of performers.
Yet, when they opt for a business environment, they are usually highly appreciated for their dedication, talent, and efficiency. This is because they usually have a natural gift for leading and motivating teams.
Hardworking and enthusiastic, these smooth communicators love the stage lights and often pursue careers in the public domain. Other than that, they are good at many things but may still find it hard to discover what they want to do.
The dilemma of whether to pursue their authentic interests or just go about anything that promises big success often tortures 3w2s. As a matter of fact, these individuals may make some choices just to impress others, without pursuing what they like the most.
Here are some ideas about the jobs that best suit these enticing personalities:
A 3w2 needs their achievements to be seen and admired. They are very result-oriented and will not tolerate any task that is expected to bring results in years to come—they want it all now.
The worst choices for them will be jobs that require peace and solitude and provide no flashy results. Lack of structure may also lead 3w2s to chaos, as they need to track their results to feel good. The same applies to positions that don’t include communicating with people.
Some bad career choices for the 3w2 type may include:
Charming and alluring, 3w2s will gladly step on every stage they can get. Their vibrant energy attracts people naturally, especially the opposite sex.
Many celebrities with the attribute of sex bomb belong to this type, including:
And that’s a wrap!
Here are a few key points about 3w2s to take away before you go: