6 November 2023
If anyone can make life seem easy and full of sunshine and rainbows, that would be Enneagram Type Seven, the Enthusiast. When they are happy, they shine brighter than the brightest star, charming everyone around them with their irresistible zest for life. Unlike them, unhealthy Enneagram 7 makes life unnecessarily complicated and everything but shiny.
In this guide, we’ll analyze the intricate psyche of Enneagram Type Seven to understand their unhealthy patterns and map their path back to health.
Enneagram 7, when healthy, can see and savor the beauty of life like no one else. Their curiosity and enthusiasm are contagious, and their charisma is irresistible. Moreover, they are full of energy and exude joy—their hearts and minds are in tune, and they are always open to new possibilities.
For this reason, healthy Sevens easily make connections with other people. They channel their need for excitement and new experiences into exploring their relationships more deeply instead of pursuing shallow amusement in needless adventures.
Curious, witty, playful, yet compassionate at the same time, healthy Sevens are well integrated into their community, enjoy learning new things, and always find a way to get pleasure and joy from life. Needless to say, they are also often considered one of the most creative Enneagram types.
In general, the biggest healthy vs unhealthy Enneagram 7 difference is in the way they handle unpleasant emotions. Healthy Sevens face them head-on, bravely learning the lessons that come from negative experiences and making peace with them. Meanwhile, unhealthy ones turn to other, not-so-great methods.
In many cases, unhealthy Sevens may not look significantly different from healthy Sevens—they are usually just as energetic and playful. However, the difference is in how they use all that energy.
Here, we’ll describe what an unhealthy version of this personality type looks like by exploring the most common unhealthy traits of Enneagram 7.
Though they may have the drive of Type Three and the energy of Type Eight, Sevens are way more sensitive than these types. Their delicate nervous system is hyper-alert and easily overstimulated. For this reason, when they are under stress for longer than usual, unhealthy Sevens become irritable and anxious but are unable to identify the source of their anxiety.
As a consequence of this, they become anxious and frequently experience psychosomatic issues such as insomnia, headaches, and a wide variety of other health problems that are associated with stress.
Since they avoid unpleasant experiences and block all kinds of negative emotions, unhealthy Sevens eventually lose touch with their core nature and reality in some cases. Their lack of confidence isn’t the result of not having specific skills but a consequence of their disconnection from their core needs.
Due to their inability to identify and meet their own needs, they experience growing feelings of inadequacy and insecurity across all aspects of their lives.
In an attempt to completely avoid and negate the unpleasant experiences, Sevens often resort to self-indulgence, which they confuse with self-care. Everything becomes a pursuit for shallow pleasure as they try to numb their feelings and avoid pain.
In such cases, their otherwise healthy hedonism becomes an excuse for all kinds of self-indulgences, from overeating to substance abuse and everything in between. As a result, they become completely oblivious to the demands of real life and doomed to failure.
Seven's obsessive need to avoid pain and discomfort grows stronger as they cut themselves off from their emotions and lose touch with themselves.
Because of this, they can eventually lose all sense of what is important in life. They slowly turn into people who chronically ruin agreements, break promises, and fail to finish their work tasks on time, letting down everyone around them.
Not only do they forget to do their tasks, but they also forget what they have already done, and their lives become a complete mess. Inevitably, they begin to feel overwhelmed and completely confused by the chaos they have caused.
Sevens usually grow up surrounded by people who protect them from experiencing the rough side of life. This way, they indirectly learn that unpleasant feelings aren’t an integral part of the human experience. However, when healthy, Sevens spontaneously overcome this core belief and face all sides of life with curiosity.
Unhealthy Enneagram 7 does the exact opposite—they avoid facing and feeling their emotions but rather intellectualize them or distract themselves with a load of different activities. They hope that if they are constantly occupied, they can avoid experiencing any negative emotions or memories.
Unhealthy Sevens are incapable of acknowledging their own and other people’s limits. For this reason, they may easily bury themselves in work or burn out by partying excessively. Whatever they do, they can’t stop until some higher force pushes them to.
Therefore, they unintentionally cross all the lines, which causes people around them to step away and distance themselves to avoid being pulled into Seven's vicious circle of self-sabotaging patterns.
Unhealthy Sevens often believe that they deserve special treatment because of their unique qualities or simply because they are who they are. Since reality inevitably forces them to face the fact that they are no more special than any other human being, they begin to feel inadequate and insecure.
To compensate for these feelings of inadequacy, they develop a grandiose self-image, displaying narcissistic traits and treating other people as if they are inferior to them. However, their narcissism is infantile, and people easily see through it, which makes Sevens even more insecure.
A lack of boundaries combined with a compulsive need to avoid unpleasant feelings robs Sevens of their precious energy. As a result, they become completely incapable of focusing, even on things they are genuinely interested in. They become scattered, confused, and moody, starting many different projects without following through and finishing any of them.
Unhealthy Sevens often behave like kids who insist on having their desires fulfilled instantly, at all times, no matter the circumstances. For this reason, an unhealthy Seven may fill their shopping cart with products and have a meltdown at the counter when they realize they can’t afford all of them.
On top of this, their impulsivity may lead to all kinds of risky behaviors, not just public displays of dissatisfaction. They may provoke other people to react aggressively to their spoiled outbursts, irresponsible moves, and similar displays of immaturity.
Enneagram 7 becomes unhealthy as they slip into unhealthy patterns whenever they face something that is deeply painful to them. A breakup, failure at work, boredom, and any kind of emotional turmoil push them to compulsively seek pleasure to escape dealing with whatever they are feeling. On top of it, unresolved past traumas can also be the cause of their unhealthy behavior.
At the core of their unhealthy patterns is their lack of competence in handling unpleasant emotions. They often never actually had the chance to learn to cope with pain, sorrow, and disappointment as their caregiver shielded them too much from the reality of life.
As a result, they are easily overwhelmed, even when what they are going through is not tragic but rather a normal part of life. By avoiding the small issues that are inevitable, their problems only grow bigger, and they experience even more discomfort. This is how they get trapped in the vicious cycle of creating serious problems by avoiding them.
To become healthy, unhealthy Enneagram 7 personality has to learn that unpleasant feelings and experiences are an integral part of life. The reason why they run away from confronting these is that, in most cases, they simply have no idea what to do with the discomfort.
Therefore, it is essential for them to learn about emotional regulation strategies. Sevens have to learn to sit with the discomfort and feel their feelings instead of intellectualizing them. A mature friend, partner, or therapist will likely need to help them through this process because the likelihood of them deciding to do this on their own is low.
The support of their loved ones is very important for Sevens on their path to healing. Fostering genuine emotional bonds and honest communication instead of focusing on people who provide them with short-term pleasure and excitement is another huge lesson for Sevens.
They easily leave relationships as soon as they get bored, unaware they are failing to feel the deep joy of becoming close to someone. However, when they take the first steps in overcoming their fear of negative emotions, their capacity for connecting with other people on a deeper level also expands.
Bottom line, Seven's recovery hinges on two processes: learning to manage negative emotions and developing trusting relationships with others.
Dealing with an unhealthy Enneagram Type 7 personality feels a lot like dealing with a spoiled but charming child. You have to be patient but also amusing, as they will only react to people and things that bring them positive experiences.
So, it is essential that you stay light and non-judgemental, as they will immediately withdraw as soon as you show any kind of disapproval. When you are sure you connect with them, focus on creating a safe, friendly, and protective atmosphere where they can face what they are going through without feeling judged or pressured into being something they are not.
Share how you overcame your issues without assuming a superior position. It is essential that you reassure Seven that all of us have our share of problems and that the only way to solve them is to confront them. Make sure to point out how good you feel when you solve and overcome your problems and focus on the positive sides of confronting issues.
When Sevens understand that dealing with issues involves a lot of positive experiences, they will find it easier to move toward solutions and not run away from them.
Enneagram Type Seven’s path to healing essentially describes the process of growing up, which can be scary but also incredibly rewarding. When Sevens feel the power that comes with accepting instead of avoiding responsibility, their self-confidence grows, and their focus moves from wasting to investing in their talents.
Now that we have a full scope of the unhealthy Enneagram 7 processes, let’s point out some of their most prominent characteristics:
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